I pledge...

This year I will turn 40 and in honor of me being Fabulous, Flirty and 40 I have a few things that I am pledging to do for myself…a kind of bucket list that is all about ME!!

I will run a ½ marathon
I will run 3 additional races in 2010 (5K, 10K or 13.1)
-heck…maybe I will run 1 on my races in a different state where a friend lives...perfect excuse for a visit and exercise!
I will take a trip to see at least one friend for the weekend
I will hook up with the girls for a “Girls Night Out” 1 time per month

Rules of Attraction

Mental attraction is a powerful thing in my opinion. To be mentally attracted to someone is an entirely different ball game when compared to physical attraction. Mental attraction can transcend physical attraction…heck in my opinion it is far greater than physical attraction. The mind, heart, spirit and soul of this other human being is so deeply connected to you that they are the most beautiful/handsome creature on the earth and a few extra pounds nor the wrinkles of time can change that…it is greater than purely physical attraction.

To be in love with someone mentally…to have decades pass since your last face to face encounter with this person, but to love them madly and deeply because they connect with your mind…it’s like a Vulcan mind trick that cant be explained.

To have a connection so strong that time nor circumstances can shatter. An existence with another human being that is “easy.” Unfortunately for most of us being “easy” with another person is not easy at all. If you know what I mean when I refer to being “easy” then consider yourself lucky to have been in a relationship where the two of you were simply “easy”.

I hold and prize mental attraction above all others because physical attraction usually follows, creating a bond like no other. A bond that can never be tarnished or gilded by years…a bond that immaturity and hard headedness at last recognizes.

Simply put:

He is my Beloved, I love Him passionately and I am His. He loves me like no man ever could, deep in my inner being where soul and spirit meet. He holds my soul in His hand and protects it from the harshness of this world. I wish you too could feel His Passion and oh if you could just smell His garments you’re heart would melt. His eyes are like pools of water and my heart leaps to hear His footsteps. His shoulders are broad and His heartbeat steady as i lay my head on His Breast and smell the clothing steeped in His scent. His words are whispers, heavy with love and i desire Him. The soft gentle light forces the darkness away and ushers in the silence filled with anticipation. His lips brush against mine, His mouth tastes sweet and i am consumed with passion for Him. I am my Beloved’s and Beloved is mine.

Happy New Year!!

Wishing everyone a happy and prosperous new year!

Bah Humbug

Truth be told I am not a big fan of the holidays. Plainly put they are overrated! People running around spending money that they can't afford to buy mess that most folks don't want or need.
Of course my children get gifts but I will never be the kind of parent who goes overboard on gifts. Someone shared with me that their family buys 3 gifts for each kid...something you want, something you need and a surprise. I like that idea.

Truth be told...the holiday are all about food for me! As long and I get to go home and my mama cooks, I'm HAPPY!!

If You Stay Ready...You Ain't Never Got to Get Ready

As the New Year quickly approaches, I have begun to reevaluate my health and fitness. I will turn the big 4-0 in 2010 and if I want to continue to look fabulous into my 50’s and 60’s I will need to take a good hard look at my health, nutrition and fitness. Don’t get me wrong it is not my goal to be a size 4, but I know what an acceptable weight is for me, where I fell and looks my best. The ideal number on the scale or jean size will be different for all of us, but it’s important that we all eat right, exercise, and take care of our skin and hair so that we can approach the next 40 years with fierceness!!

The comedienne Mo’nique has a saying “If you stay ready, you ain’t got to get ready.” I have found these to be words to live by in recent months, and she is 100% correct. If you make fitness and health a priority you don’t have to scramble before that Hawaiian vacation to try and loose 20 pounds to be at the weight you know you should be. If you floss at least once a day you don’t have to freak out when you realize your dentist appoint is a month away and you haven’t flossed in the last three months. If you get off your butt and do some type of exercise 3 to 4 times a week for at least 20-30 minutes, you won’t feel so sluggish and run down.

We are all busy with work, friends and family, but we have to make sure to take care of ourselves or there will be none of us to share with other if we are spent. And speaking of friends…we have got to stay connected!! Spending time with your divas and divos is a MUST! Kicking back and laughing and having fun…hell just plain getting out of the house is what we need to do to recharge our batteries.

I say all of this because I have fallen into the same traps, but I am making a commitment to eating well, exercising, taking care of my skin, hair and nails, spending time with my girls! My goal is to “stay ready, so I ain’t never got to get ready!” Don’t get me wrong I like to indulge in meals out, cocktails, sweet treats, buttered popcorn at the movies…LOL I will still do all these thing, but moderation is key. If I eat well and exercise all week there is nothing wrong indulging 1 night. Now this is not carte blanche to eat yourself sick, but go ahead and have dessert or order that steak, because you have being doing everything all week to stay ready, so come Saturday night you ARE ready.

I hope to post more about health, fitness and nutrition. The bottom line is, if we are eating well, exercising and drinking plenty of water, our hair skin and nails will look great because we are taking care of our bodies from the inside.

I don’t know about y’all but I’m gonna take Mo’nique’s advice and “stay ready!”