Happy Birthday Mama!!

We’ve been MIA at the Flirty 40’s for a bit…sorry, but life and the fleeting days of summer and cocktails beckon us all!! One of the lovely things about being fabulous and 40 is that if you are lucky, hopefully you have made a few bucks and the financial stresses you may have felt in your 20’s and 30’s have subsided or at least eased up a bit. I was lucky enough to take my mother on the trip of her choice for her 60th birthday thanks to the few bucks I’ve made as a direct result of the serious bucks my mama dropped on my education. I told her she could pick any location in the contiguous United States (I ain’t ball’ in like Jay Z). My mother’s choice was Savannah and that is exactly where we went! So cheers to being Fabulous and 40 and having a hard working mom whose sacrifices allowed you to make a few bucks so that you could treat her on her 60th B-day! Happy Birthday mama!!

Why Do Couples Really Get Divorced?

I recently came across a list proclaiming the top 10 reasons why people get divorced. At number 1 was "infedelity"...now I had to laugh at this, becasue we all know (at least any lawyer that has ever handled a family law case) that folks don't get divorced becuase their partner cheated...they get divorced because of money!

Both men and women alike would have you think that if their spouse cheated on them that they would be out the door, but that just isn't the case. Kids, mortages, joint debt, security...these are just a few of the reason why folks don't get divorced because a spouse cheated.

Divorce can be expensive for those who have been married for sometime and have actually accumlated savings, 401K plans, vacation property, and a home. Bottome line is that we as human beings don't walk away from perceived security eaisly, even if our man is going around poking another chick!

What we do care about is if he is poking another woman and the bills aren't paid. Money is the root of all evil some say and it is most definitely the root of divorce, and not infidelity. It's a lot easier to leave someone when the money is funny. The number 1 thing couples fight about is finances. Being broke ain't fun and misery does not like company when the bank account is empty. Now money woes can certainly lead to infidelity in a marriage but the root is still cash.

So the next time you hear folks talking about what they will and will not put up with from their spouse, know this...they will put up with a lot more than they will lead you to believe as long as the bills are paid!

~Nikki